Our brains are natural amplifiers, easily detecting unfriendly signals and returning them with more intensity.
Enemy mode feels as if “You are not on my side.”
We don’t like people being against us.
We don’t like the way enemy mode feels.
We become suspicious, wary, and hostile with others. Even with those trying to help us.
Could one brain state explain why we:
This is enemy mode.
Our brains can develop a damaging state of mind where we see and experience others as adversaries.
Living in enemy mode poisons family relationships, separates friends, and breaks communities apart.
Enemy mode produces relational blindness.
“The trouble is enemy mode keeps us from seeing people as fellow humans with value.
The consequences are painful and costly.”
“All 3 types of enemy mode impair brain function so we cannot tell if the other person is truly an enemy.”
The grocery story was nearly empty when Jim heard metal hit metal. He turned to see a woman in her seventies repeatedly smashing her grocery cart into the cart of a woman half her age. It was the early 2020s—a global pandemic was raging, and enemy mode was spreading more rapidly than COVID-19. The older woman’s shouting was muffled by the mask she wore. The younger woman wore no mask. The younger woman glared silently, but belligerently, at her assailant. A man in his twenties intervened almost instantly. “Get away from her,” he told the older woman, “she is going to get you sick. Stay away from her.”
All three brains were in enemy mode.
Most shoppers would have recognized the COVID symptoms as a fever and dry cough. Few would recognize the symptoms of enemy mode in the brain as they stared at the banging carts, angry faces, and rapidly escalating hostility that was sucking them into the conflict. Instead, bystanders blamed the conflict on differing beliefs about COVID between the two ladies. Yet, shoppers who were not banging carts also held differing beliefs.
All three brains were in enemy mode.
“Since the Covid-19 pandemic, you could see people becoming alienated at a rapid pace.”
Two leaders working alongside each other saw something unique in the midst of these experiences and knew they had to reveal the unseen processes in the brain that were dividing people so the process could be reversed.
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Join Dr. Jim Wilder and Ray Woolridge, authors of “Escaping Enemy Mode”, and Chris Coursey, author of “The Joy Switch”, for this timely event that will dive into how to begin the escape from the damaging effects of enemy mode. Learn how to stay relational and refriend the people in our lives, beginning with yourself.
Gather online with Ray Woolridge, co-author of Escaping Enemy Mode, and others escaping enemy mode, bi-weekly on March 2, March 16, March 30 and April 13, 2023, at Noon ET.
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Listen as Moody Publishers engages the co-authors of Escaping Enemy Mode to discuss the problem revealed greatly during the pandemic, illustrations from real life, the neuroscience, and ultimately how to love your enemies.
In this first episode of Escaping Enemy Mode, we meet Jim Wilder and Ray Woolridge. Neurotheologian Jim Wilder helps the listener understand the brain science of Enemy Mode and how much it affects the way we approach the world around us. Retired Army Brigadier General Ray Woolridge outlines his journey to discovering the presence of Enemy Mode in his life and his struggle, along with Jim, to escape it.
In this episode, we'll dive deeper into the three enemy modes: simple, stupid and intelligent enemy mode. We'll hear stories that illustrate each mode, how their different, and how to identify in yourself and others when you're encountering enemy mode.
Jim Wilder interviews special guest Lisa from Minneapolis. She tells the story of intervening and de-escalating a stupid enemy mode situation. Jim, Ray and Jeremy then discuss the unique features of stupid enemy mode and the best pathways for re-engaging the relational centers of the brain to escape this version of enemy mode.
In this episode, we hear from Chris Coursey, author of The Joy Switch. He explains a four-step process for identifying if our relational circuits are on. He helps us understand why Simple Enemy Mode threatens a thriving marriage and models pathways toward escaping enemy mode.
n this episode, Ray interviews Ryan Brenneman who worked in medical device sales during the height of the COVID pandemic. He talks about how to identify intelligent enemy mode in co-workers and clients while building a team culture that banks joy instead of running on fear.
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